*** TRIGGER WARNING, DISCUSSES SUICIDE***
The short of it is, my brother has always struggled with depression. Some times are easier to navigate than others. We’ve always been just a little worried about him, but never to the point that we were worried for his life.
Last night, he came to me. Told me he was having serious thoughts about taking his own life. My heart leaped into my stomach as I tried not to react the wrong way.
If you know someone who is struggling with depression, it’s not a bad idea to familiarize yourself with what you should do if they become suicidal. Especially during this time of COVID, even the strongest of us has hit some lows.
I want you to be more prepared than I was, so after a lot of research and my own journey through therapy, I’ve compiled this list.
First things first, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24 hours a day. The number is 800-273-8255.
Secondly, here are some warning signs to look out for:
- Overly anxious
- Overly irritable
- More confrontational
- Avoid contact with a social circle
- Sleep more than usual
- Negative self-talk
- Recklessness
- Abnormally quiet
- Giving away important belongings
- Talking or writing about death or suicide
- Talk about their funeral
- Having problems doing things they used to enjoy
- Asking someone to hold their medications
- Not wanting to be alone
Thirdly, here is how you can help:
Remember, each situation is different so use your best judgment. Seek professional help in addition to these tips, if possible.
- Tell them you care
- Let them know they aren’t alone
- Do not judge or criticize their feelings
- Listen to them talk
- Give them space to express themselves
- Get them in a safe environment
- Ask them if they are thinking of suicide or thought about a plan
- Encourage them to seek help or assist them in seeking help
Do not do any of the following:
- Tell them to get over it or shake it off
- Say “it can’t be that bad”
- Try to find an easy solution for them
- Change the subject
- Tell them they have so many great things going on, they shouldn’t feel like this
- Say they are being silly
- Tell them that life is tough and they should get used to it
- Tell them they should focus on the good and be grateful for what they have
Suicide is a sensitive topic, but we should all be aware of the warnings signs and know how to help if a situation should arise.
We are all in this together. Learn how we can help.