My last relationship was turbulent, to say the least. Even so, I didn’t speak of word of any of the chaos to my close friends or family in fear of them forever hating my significant other (SO). They all thought our relationship was perfect. It was so lonely.
When I finally got the courage to end the relationship, they were not all on board. All I heard was all the wonderful things my friends and family had to say about my SO. They didn’t know all the bad. It was so lonely, again. And that much harder to know I was doing the right thing.
I’m telling you this short story because I wish I had someone to talk to. Sometimes we don’t know if what we are experiencing is bad or good, weird or awkward, okay or not. We often don’t want to risk the relationships with our friends or family just so we can talk and feel better about it.
I hope you all have a compassionate person you can trust to talk to. We all need an objective friend to talk to. But the truth is friends can’t be objective, they know us too well.
You know who truly is an objective friend? A therapist.
Here’s why I wish I had gone to a therapist:
RISK-FREE
With a therapist, you can say ANYTHING and EVERYTHING without worry that it will affect a relationship you’ve spent so much time building.
EXTENSIVELY TRAINED
Therapists have extensive training on how to help you in your situation. They know how to customize their care just for YOU.
CONFIDENTIAL
No worries about your chat making its way around the friend group. Therapists are legally and ethically obligated to keep your information confidential.
NON-JUDGY
They have heard it all. They have no judgment. They know every situation and person is different. They want to hear you and help with whatever situation you are in, whatever your feelings might be.
Whether you decide to talk to a friend or therapist, we should all have someone we can share everything with, someone we feel safe with and not judged by.
If you have that in a friend, wonderful. If you need that in a therapist, you’ve come to the right place.
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